Lee and I have been asked many questions regarding how to apply the law of attraction in everyday life. One of the keys we feel is vital to achieving what you desire through the law of attraction is perception. Here is an example:
Imagine for a moment that you see a woman across the street running from a man. He is extremely angry and the woman appears visibly frightened. Upon a closer look you notice that the woman has something in her hand but you can?t quite make it out. The man is wearing a collared shirt and jeans, and is catching up to the woman.
What does this scenario tell you? What is your perception of the situation?
This actually was witnessed by a friend of mine, and she told me what really happened.
My friend described her perception. She believed initially that the woman was running from a man who was trying to hurt her. Being a woman herself she felt helpless. However, she did manage to get an excellent description of chaser. When she arrived at the police station, the man doing the chasing was already there, and much to her surprise, she noticed that the woman was there, too. In handcuffs!
The woman, it turned out, had stolen the guy?s wallet and he was chasing her in an attempt to get it back.
I?m sure most of us would have assumed what my friend had; it was her honest perception based on the facts at hand. But, were they facts? Or were they prejudged perceptions based on her predetermined fears as a woman who would, herself, feel helpless or in danger should she have found herself the target of someone chasing her.
How many perceptions do you find yourself making when observing another's situation each day? Making a wrong perception about another person's life can (and usually does) create havoc in applying the law of attraction for attaining what you desire. Another byproduct of negative perception is the judgment of another's life style through your own prism. You may not even realize that this is what is happening, but it is a very real and common occurrence, and you'll want to keep yourself in check.
How many times have you been out in public and seen a mother with a screaming child; one whom she does nothing to calm or correct? And how many times have you thought, through your own eyes, that you knew exactly what was going on in a particular situation? Perhaps you dismissed the child as a brat, or maybe assumed that the mom was simply lazy for not doing a thing to coax her child to be quiet? In fact the truth of the situation was that the child had just been told "no" and the mom was using a little tough love by ignoring the tantrum.
How many times have you seen someone arrive late for work and didn't seem to exhibit the least bit of concern that they were late, then proceeded to go about their business? Is it possible that you might have assumed through your own perception that your co-worker was not an exemplary employee because of his apparent non-caring workplace attitude? Proof that your perception was misguided is that you didn?t realize he had returned to work after pulling an all-nighter at the hospital, caring for his ailing wife.
These are perceptions that every one of us makes daily. When we assume that we know what is happening in another's life without truly knowing, we are merely passing judgment on another human being; and what does the Universe attract to you during your assumptions? A situation similar to the judgment made with the feelings you attached to the assumption.
Most people fail to realize that they are judging, and it is important to recognize this when you perceive another and your perception of them is negative. Allow others to create and live his or her life, while you stick with yours. If you discover a situation that you personally wouldn?t care to make part of your life, make sure to observe it without judgment. You cannot assume what another's life is like without having walked in their shoes. It?s an old saying, but it?s true nonetheless.
This goes for family as well.
You may assume that you know everything there is to know about your siblings, and you feel that their decisions aren't exactly what you would have arrived at. But no one knows exactly why another chooses they path they do, or makes the decisions that to you appear inadequate. But you haven't experienced life as they have. You have only experienced their lives through the perceptions that feel comfortable and understandable to you.
If your perception is defined by seeing the positive in everyone, the positive will return via the law of attraction to you. If, on the other hand, your perception recognizes the negative in everyone and in most situations, then the negative will be the payoff you can expect. It really is that simple. Perceptions with feelings attached are a powerful motive force toward speeding up the law of attraction.
Love others for who they are; not for who you wish them to be.